The identity crisis.

For most of us, we sometimes feel that somewhere between the altar and our ever after that we have lost our Identity. We Have to make choices that involve more than just ourselves. We have to grow up.
And honestly, being a grown up, isn't always all it's cracked up to be. Life in the adult world is crazy. And to add to it, you lost yourself to the wants and needs of others. Careless days, a thing of the past.
Here are a few must haves to keep us sane.
1. Bubble baths. Not only are they awesome, but they help to release tension as well. At least one every two weeks.
2. A hobby. Something that you love to do. Something just for you.
3. Date night! You don't need a sitter to have date night. Feed the kids early and make a candle light dinner to share with your husband.
4. Joy and hope. When you are exhausted with life grab hold to joy and hope. Remember HIS joy comes in the morning.
These are just some quick home remedies for us to connect and get back to ourselves.

I know as a whole our "me time" us about 15 minutes a day.

Also, I am not a big advocate for "me time". We rarely get out and when we do it's usually together. I'm happy with that. I have dreams and ideas I hold on to for when my kids are grown. Then, I can have my me time. Until then I will rely on bubble baths and chocolate.

Doh!!

5. CHOCOLATE! How could I forget chocolate, oooh and
6.....the occasional retail therapy visit.
And........
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Our story

A little story to tell us a little
more about how we became us.
So, to make a long story short I was a teen age mom. That relationship didn't pan out so well and my oldest sons (oldest son is 14) father is not allowed to have contact with us. PERIOD!
I was 21 when I met my husband. We met in a local night club. I was sitting there with some guy, who was boring the life right out of me. My brave DH sauntered over the table and asked if I would like to dance.
Desperate to get away from Mr. Boring, bur not wanting to seem TOO rude I said that he would have to buy me a rose to dance. It was only fair, boring guy had bought several. My husband started to walk away, stopped suddenly, and turned back around. He came back to the table, picked up one of Mr. Borings flowers and handed it to me. "I got you a rose, can we dance". I felt so bad for Mr Boring. I was trying not to laugh as we walked to the dance floor. Poor Mr Boring. Sitting there jaw dropped and rejected, never had a chance after that bold/ rude move.
At this time, I was seeing someone. We were FAIRLY serious. But he was getting ready to ship out of country with the military. I decided that this wasn't the one worth waiting for and got out of that relationship.
2 weeks after I met hubby, who will henceforth be known as Mr. Country, I called him for the first time. We met at his apartment and went back to the club we had met at.
Something strange happened to both of us that first date, we just KNEW, we knew that we were meant for each other and have pretty much been inseperable since date 1.
In the year 2000 our family grew by one. Another boy (age 9 now) Less than a year later we got his two kids from his previous marraige. A girl (now 12) and a boy (now 10).
And finally in 2002 we had our last baby, another boy (now 7). We have been pregnant twice since then but lost both.
With my oldest sons father not allowed to be in the picture and his Children's mother completely abandoning them, we set out to make OUR family.
We have been homeschooling for 5 years, after testing the waters of public school.
We are a very tight, close knit family. You would never know there was a mine, his, and ours beginning, unless you knew us well.
We had a rocky start in all of our new adventures and circumstances but have been able to stand firm in our commitment to eachother and wade the tides and the times of craziness out together. Coming out better and stronger than before.
It blows my mind that our simple, crazy start has turned into something so beautiful and deep.
I'm grateful to God everyday for making us for each other. For giving us all a plan and guiding us through.
I guess that's the story of when life started for us. A surprising set of events. Molded to turn into a masterpiece.


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